An Ode to Nice Girls

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Its all an interview process to sort through the baggage...

As I get older I realize everyone I meet from now on has some sort of baggage. Im no talking about children, or ex husbands. Im talking about emotional baggage. I will openly admit I have baggage. Whether its a broken heart, or a preconception of what a relationship should look like, its all relevant. It all effects our ability to move on with another "healthy relationship". Maybe that's why its so much easier to date when we are younger. We haven't been through enough to know how we want or need a relationship to be.
I could never imagine when I was 18 or 19 only going on one date and making up my mind that there wasn't a second one. I can remember a time when just having a date was exciting. Now I think I have become a little negative about dating and relationships. When you go on enough "bad" dates or have enough 2 week flings, your thoughts about relationships become altered. Going on a date is more like an interview. Im sure there isn't anyone who would disagree with this comment.
Like Hiring for a position at work my add will read.
Position: Boyfriend
Qualifications needed:Bla bla bla
Please list all baggage and faults in large print on resume.
All applicants will receive one first date...If you are not chosen for the position...You will not be contacted. If your phone calls aren't returned...Please don't stalk me!!

So since everyone has baggage, its than your responsibility to decide which baggage you are willing to live with. And when you finally find someone that you think you can tolerate...They usually have problems with your baggage..Etc.

At what point does it become impossible...Or am I just too negative?

Monday, August 28, 2006

Something I want to say.

Call Me When You're Sober
By Evanescence, from the CD: The Open Door


Don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
You want me,
Come find me.
Make up your mind...
Should I let you fall?
And lose it all?
So maybe you can remember yourself.

Can't keep believing,
We're only deceiving ourselves .
And I'm sick of the lie...
And you're too late!

Don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
You want me,
Come find me.
Make up your mind...!

Couldn't take the blame.
Sick with shame.
Must be exhausting to lose your own game.

Selfishly hated,
No wonder you're jaded.
You can't play the victim this time...
And you're too late!

So, don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
You want me,
Come find me.
Make up your mind......

You never call me when you're sober.
You only want it 'cuz it's over,
It's over..!

How could I have burned paradise?
How could I... you were never mine!

So don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
Don't lie to me,
Just get your things.
I've made up your mind.

Tuesday, July 18, 2006

A tip for the broke....you can make money on a date.

I haven't posted in a while. But here is an update. In the last few months I have been on ALOT of date LOTS, mostly bad ones. A few good ones that leaded to a few more good ones, and just good enough to give you a glimmer of hope but inevitably turned out badly.Sometimes no matter how much you have in common, if your thoughts are different about how people should be treated in a relationship it is doomed to fail, and is better that's it ends sooner than later.


I haven't found what I am looking for, but I have definitely found what I am not looking for. Behavior to definitely stay away from. For example: If you are a guy who is short of cash I have discovered a new way for a guy to make money on a date. So if your not into a girl, and I stress that, because by doing this it will guarantee that you will not receive a second date give this money making scam a try..haha. Invite the girl for supper somewhere nice. When you get there be sure to complain about the prices. That way she will order something cheap to be nice. Than after she orders her $7 salad and glass of water you can go ahead and order your $30 steak meal and rum and coke. After your meal is done let the girl reach the $20 out of her wallet. Instead of being a gentleman and offering to pay because you are the one taking her out in the first place, take her $20, and be sure not to give her any change. Than when you take her to a movie..Let her know she doesn't have to pay for her movie tickets, and pull out the free movie passes your mom gave you. That will make her feel special knowing you are treating her to a free movie...hahaha. Offer to get her a snack, and when she tells you what she wants hold out your hand so she knows you expect her to pay, than again don't give her any change.
Than to top off the night when you are in the movie and there is that moment when you really want to hold her hand. Just hold out your hand and whisper in her ear"feel how gross and sweaty my hands are." And if she doesn't at that moment stand up and leave. Than you know she is "TOO NICE"

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

I just really like this song

2 AM and she calls me 'cause I'm still awake,
Can you help me unravel my latest mistake,
I don't love him, winter just wasn't my season
Yeah we walk through the doors, so accusing their eyes
Like they have any right at all to criticize,
Hypocrites, you're all here for the very same reason

'Cause you can't jump the track,we're like cars on a cable
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button girl,
So cradle your head in your hands
And breathe, just breathe,
Woah breathe, just breathe

May he turn 21 on the base at Fort Bliss
Just a day, he sat down to the flask in his fist,
Ain't been sober, since maybe October of last year.
Here in town you can tell he's been down for a while,
But my God it's so beautiful when the boy smiles,
Wanna hold him, maybe I'll just sing about it.

Cause you can't jump the track, we're like cars on a cable,
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table.
No one can find the rewind button boys,
So cradle your head in your hands,
And breathe, just breathe,
Woah breathe, just breathe

There's a light at each end of this tunnel, you shout
'Cause you're just as far in as you'll ever be out
These mistakes you've made, you'll just make them again
If you only try turning around.

2 AM and I'm still awake, writing a song
If I get it all down on paper, its no longer
Inside of me, threatening the life it belongs to
And I feel like I'm naked in front of the crowd
Cause these words are my diary, screaming out loud
And I know that you'll use them, however you want to

Cause you can't jump the track, we're like cars on a cable,
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button now
Sing it if you understand.
And breathe, just breathe
Woah breathe, just breathe,
Oh breathe, just breathe.

Monday, July 03, 2006

Self destructive behavior

Lately I find myself on the other end of the phone attempting to help with problems that I have not yet figured out the solutions for myself. These are the problems that don't have solution. There is not a magical cure for a broken heart, or a pill you can to heal a relationship, that is with the wrong person to begin with. "Wouldn't that make life a lot easier"

Why is it that we get ourselves into situations that we know are self destructive. Is it for the convenience, or are we just lonely enough to fall for the first person to show any interest. Maybe its a lack of self confidence, or a fear of being alone. Maybe we fall in love with the idea of someone, and not in love with them. If that is the case, would you know the difference? "There was I time I didn't."

Why do we fall for people who are completely unavailable? Thrill of the chase maybe?? Or is it a case of we want what we cant have?? Why is it that some of us find ourselves falling in love with someone who is committed to someone else, or that just isn't that into you? We all know it will lead to a broken heart, and I am sure almost everyone I know has found themselves in this situation at least once.

Is it impossible to find that one person who wants and needs the same things in life as you do? " Sometimes I think so."

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

This one is for all the men who read my blog..The "Nice Guys" I found it...Read it..And thought it was hilarious

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... But she's just not interested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But you all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, you beg, plead, chase, and do your best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

Should I keep planning?

Sometimes as you go through your days mindlessly one after another, sometimes something surprises you. These are the things that make life fun and exciting. You can plan your life all you want...And lets face it I am a planner, always have been. But most of the fun things that happen in life are spontaneous. Going on a road trip, getting a tattoo. Skinny dipping with strange men in Kelona...LOL.
Even sometimes when your least expecting it surprises happen, someone you thought fell off the face of the earth pops up out if nowhere. Or someone you see everyday that you never notice, until one day they say something and it makes you take a look.
Do you think we can plan and make our lives what we want them to be. Or is it the fun surprises that happen everyday that will predict our future???

Sunday, May 07, 2006

Not mine....but it makes alot of sense.

Ok so Erin put this comment on my blog. Its not from my mouth but makes alot of sense and think you should all read it. Props to the Author..

Here it is:
After alot of thinking, talking, listening, and experience I am starting to figure out what myself and most women are looking for (in the of spirit sharing if you know what men want please feel free to add it in the comments haha):

Honesty - This is critical, and yes an omission is still not being honest (lol sometimes).
Confidence - Very sexy and if a man isn't confident in himself then its hard to see him as anything more then a friend. Strength is more then how many muscles you have, its a state of mind.
Chemistry - Almost impossible to describe but when you feel it you know it; its intense, irresistible, and it can take your breath away.
Friendship - Because even with great chemistry you can't act on it every minute (not without being arrested haha).
Aggression - Not in an asshole "do whatever you want" way but in a "know what you want and go after it" way. If you want to kiss a girl lean in and let her know, if she leans in too perfect. If you already know she wants you to kiss her then go for it without holding back.
Romance - Its more then just flowers, its showing her in little ways that she matters to you and that she is special.
Sense of Humor - Laughter serves two specific purposes: it just helps makes everyday better and it is a serious form of foreplay.
Excitement - Life is too short to get caught up in routines and being to comfortable. Create an adventure, find a way to release your adrenaline together.
Compatibility - mutual friends or mutual interests, things you can talk about, share, and enjoy together.
Passion - understanding the difference between sex and making love, and that a relationship can have both.

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